Friday, April 4, 2008

A mother's pride fills her heart...and empties her wallet

There are a few things that make me feel proud of myself that I can brag about without sounding like a big horse's patoot. For example, I take a measure of pride in the fact that I was raised to be the kind of girl that can comfortably go to other people's homes and eat whatever food they are kind enough to share. I don't get squiggly about food in combinations I've never seen before or whose colors and aromas are foreign and confusing to my senses. Generally, I see new a new food and think, "Cool, I'll try that." Of course, once in awhile I do find myself seated before a dubious offering. At those times, my worst inclination is to think, "Well, how bad can one bite be?" My mom, you see, always told me that I had to try at least "one bite."

My waistline tells the tale: I like most everything. More importantly, I want my kids to like most everything, too (while maintaining a healthy waistline, of course!). I want them to be the kind of kids who can enjoy dinner at a friend's house and not freak out because the food is touching, mixed together, or (gulp!) completely unrecognizable as food. It will happen...some day...and it will be the worst possible occasion, like the first dinner with a special girl's family. With this in mind, since Wyatt and Jack started eating solid foods, I've tried to expose them to as many different textures, flavors, and combinations as possible. For the most part, I've been successful and Michael is very supportive of my efforts, going so far as to choke down foods he would never consider, all for the sake of humoring my need to expand the boys' palates. Naturally, both boys get on jags and swear they "don't like x" or "will never try y." I don't take these small protests seriously. I just gently remind them that "yes you do like x, you ate it before and you'll eat it next time" or reassure them that "you don't have to try it today, but you do have to keep it on your plate." Then I make it a point to serve the questionable food often and put it on everyone's plate for consideration. Eventually, what was once offensive becomes familiar and I'm rewarded with the sight of a sweet little boy polishing off his x or y with gusto.

By staying positive and not giving up when confronted by wrinkled noses, Michael and I have managed to help Wyatt and Jack like many different foods and not become too boggled by new things. While I'm thrilled that they'll eat broccoli, cous cous, pecorino romano cheese (in chunks...by itself!), and hummus, above all else, my greatest desire was to help them learn about and enjoy seafood. Fish, shrimp, scallops, clams, and of course, lobster. What kind of Maine Girl would I be if I didn't love lobster? What kind of Maine Mom would I be if my boys didn't grow up to love lobster, even if we do live 3,000 miles from the chilly Atlantic???

Which brings me to the aforementioned empty wallet...both of my boys LOVE lobster. Michael treats me to lobster for my birthday or Mother's Day each year. One lobster once or twice a year isn't that extravagant. But now...it's three lobsters (sadly--or luckily--Michael does not love this sweet delicacy!). Jack enjoyed his first lobster, on his own plate, last Mother's Day. Wyatt has been a pro at eating lobster for several years and was thrilled to help show his little brother the ropes. Take a look...

Jack admiring his first lobster...
on his own plate
with his own drawn butter
and his very own shell cracker









Wyatt scored a HUGE claw!








Jack, Mommy, and Wyatt...loving lobster, loving life!



Happy Boys...with Expensive Taste...and a very Proud Mom!


Saturday, March 29, 2008

What's so great about being linear?

One of the beauties of getting older (yes, there are a few) is that I've learned to accept that some of my annoying habits are not going to change, like not getting my film developed in a timely manner (which is why I need a digital camera, but that's a story for another day). Shamefully, despite being the mom of two rapidly growing boys, I have a drawer busting with undeveloped film. I'm telling you this, fair reader, so you know that my blog posts will not necessarilly be a lovely linear progression of photos that mark the passage of my days as they come, one after the other, with the more recent coming after the less recent. Oh no. Not at all. Many will be reflective of times gone by...as I remember and rediscover moments that I finally get to see when the spirit moves me to develop another expectant roll of film. This works for me. My brain has never been linear. I can jump from A to K and back to C with no trouble at all (who needs B!). Some find this disturbing, chaotic even, but it's normal life for me. But that means that my blog moments won't necessarily follow a strict chronology, they'll jump back and forth...moments such as these, for example:

HALLOWEEN, 2006


Jack, as dreaded Captain Hook

Wyatt, as dashing Jack Sparrow


These are pictures I developed long after the Halloween chocolates were gobbled down. They're great, though, aren't they? I really love these boys. Love their moments. Love seeing them grow, pretend, learn, change...each new day really is a new day for them, not just another day as it is for so many of us "grown-ups."


I really love the idea of being the kind of mom that zealously chronicals each move, every sound, the stunning moments, as they happen. Alas, the "not linear" part of me finds this idea much easier to effect in thought than in practice. But, practice I shall. And the moments I succeed? Well, I'll share them here. Whooo hooo!

Tuesday, January 22, 2008

This Maine Girl: Blogger or Great Pretender?

My sister-in-law, Marjorie, has become a Blog Goddess and has inspired me to give it a whirl. I'm a creative gal by nature, but not in the crafty sense of the word. I love writing (although I don't do much of it these days), reading, pondering, and spirited debates! I also love pictures but I'm a miserable failure at scrapbooking! I don't write letters, I'm terrible at remembering to send cards, and I rarely send emails any more.

Soooo, begs the question why Blogging will be any different, eh? Honestly, I don't know that it will be, but I do like the idea of being able to post pictures and thoughts so my friends and family can get a peek at what's going on with me a little more often. I have met so many wonderful friends through the various seasons of my life and most are scattered throughout the four corners of our country, so I never see them and rarely correspond outside the occasional email, Christmas card, or update to their own blog. I have grand hopes that after our children are grown these friends and I may be able to properly reconnect...during a real visit--over dinner, wine, and coffee--with real conversations and hugs. So til then, maybe technology can be the bridge.

Figuring out what to name my Blog was...thought provoking. It will be a family blog in that I'll share the happenings of the most important people in my life, but really, I want this to be *my* blog, a way to reconnect with some dormant part of my personality. Who am I? What do I think about, ponder about, dream about? I'm a wife, mom, working woman, Christian woman, thinking woman...all those things are important, but some far more than others. God, family, and then all the rest. But who am I, this blogger wanna-be?

2007 was an incredibly challenging year for my husband, me, and our little family and 2008 still finds us sitting on the plateau, not really climbing the mountain but certainly not coasting down the sunny side. God has put us through some tremendous tests and the purpose is still yet to be discovered. During trials, you start to question what you're made of, who you are when the rubber hits the road. Through this, I've remembered that I'm actually made of some tough stuff. And through this, I've come to appreciate where this person I am began. You see, I am a Maine girl through and through. Growing up in Maine formed the foundation of who I am, how I think, the lens through which I see this crazy, mixed up, amazing world. And I've never felt completely me anywhere else. So, it's the perfect context for this new blog...A Maine Girl who finds herself Away. Longing to go back but finding that the practicalities in life make that naught but a pleasant dream, at least for now.


Well, there it is. The first post is done...let's see where the journey leads! I should probably warn you that you won't actually get this until I have another post or two under my belt...so you likely be reading my January post in July! Welcome to my world!